Anal 101: How to Put Things in Your Bum
Anal play is great. There. We said it.
No matter your gender or sexual orientation, everyone has a butthole and that butthole is packed with sensitive nerve endings that can feel amazing when stimulated.
Anal play should never (EVER) hurt and, with proper preparation and slow progression, can be a completely new (and potentially more intense) way to climax.
Read on to discover our top tips for exploring your dark side in the most pleasurable way possible.
1. Get Clean
With your butt's day job being what it is, it doesn't take a genius to work out why anal exploration takes a little extra prep to make sure you're clean.
But being clean isn't just for hygeine and a common courtesy for a partner. Knowing that you're squeaky clean down below helps you (as the receiver) relax, and enjoy the experience more, too.
For most people, this means making sure you've been to the toilet that day, and cleaning externally in the bath or shower.
For those who'd like to take extra precautions, you may like to use an anal douche.
Learn how to use an anal douche here.
2. Use Lube:
Unlike the vagina, the anus does not self-lubricate.
I repeat: THE ANUS DOES NOT SELF-LUBRICATE.
This means that you must use lube when exploring any kind of anal penetration.
There are no ifs, ands or but(t)s about it!
We recommend using a water-based anal lube.
Not only is a water-based lube compatible with all sex toys and condoms, but an anal-specific formula is thicker, and longer lasting than regular lube for better comfort and pleasure.
3. Get Warmed Up:
No, we don't mean star jumps (though it probably wouldn't do you any harm!)
Warming up for anal play means starting with small, shallow penetration before moving onto something larger and deeper, if you should choose to do so.
Start with external play, stroking around the anus with a well-lubed finger, or try a little rimming.
When you're ready for penetration, use that same well-lubed finger to slowly and gently explore.
This helps relax your anal muscles and get them ready for penetration, should you decide to move onto something larger.
A lot of people like to use a small, tapered anal toy at this stage. A beginner's butt plug is perfect.
4. Toy Around:
Playing with anal toys can be extremely pleasurable on its own, and using one doesn't necessarily mean that anal sex will follow.
Explore the full range of anal toys at your disposal, such as butt plugs, anal beads, anal probers, prostate massagers and anal vibrators, to really discover what you like.
If you're struggling to insert a toy to it's full depth (and you'd like to) a top tip is to add more lube, and bear down slightly (yes, as if you were on the toilet) and lightly press on the base of your toy.
Just remember that the best toys for beginners have a tapered tip and slender girth, and ALL anal toys should feature a flared base to prevent over-insertion.
5. After Play:
If you've climaxed whilst wearing an anal toy (particularly a butt plug) the muscles in this area will have just contracted.
This means you'll need to wait a moment or two to allow the muscles to relax again before removing your toy.
You may find that adding a drop of lube helps your toy slide out more easily.
If you've prepared properly and have been to the toilet prior to play, then it's extremely unlikely that you'll encounter any mess.
However if you should find anything "new" on your toy, don't fret it. Poop is an occupational hazard of anal play and that's just a fact.
Give yourself and your toy a good clean, and move on. (And maybe consider adding more fibre to your diet!)