In this Head Board article, we’re getting to the – ahem – bottom of the question, “If I’m a man who likes anal play, does that mean I’m gay?”.
Here to offer answers is award-winning journalist and sex educator Alix Fox, co-host of BBC Radio 1’s real-life comedy sex stories show, Unexpected Fluids, and resident X-rated agony aunt on The Modern Mann podcast.
Alix is also a proud Ambassador for young people’s sexual health charity Brook, so when it comes to bums, you know she’s not talking out of her arse.
OK, my Puzzled-About-Posterior-Play Posse, let’s have a conversation about anal stimulation! I’m going to break this question down into easily digestible parts. Starting with…
Boobs, boulders, bosom and so much more (many of which can’t exactly be written here), we could all come up with so many synonyms for breasts that we could fill an article with that alone.
What far more people overlook, however, is that the number of ways you can stimulate your boobs and the variety of toys out there to facilitate this is almost as large.
With boundless avenues for pleasure to explore it’s easy to get lost just looking for where to start.
To help with that, here are our top 5 toys you should try if you have breasticles.
When the majority of women find it easiest to climax clitorally, it's no wonder our customers are so fond of clit-specific vibrators.
Amazingly, the clitoris has over 8000 nerve endings just waiting to be stimulated, and a clitoral vibe is an excellent way of accessing more parts of it - and generating multiple orgasms!
If you haven't already got one in your artillery, take a look at our top 10 guide to find out which vibe is best for you.
Read on to find out what else these wonder-toys can do.
Many of life’s most enjoyable activities require you to work quickly. A game of Boggle, for instance, or eating a 99 in the heat of summer.
Sex is certainly an enjoyable activity; it's up there with board games and ice cream in my books.
But good sex isn’t about sprinting to the finish line. Taking the time to engage in electrifying foreplay is crucial if you want to knock your partner’s socks off.
Here are 5 tried-and-tested foreplay moves that your lucky lady is bound to love.
Lots of you asked us, what is it that makes a man phenomenal in bed? Luckily, our Head Board sexpert and award-winning relationships blogger, is here to offer his take on the number one sex tip for men.
Sex from a male perspective can often be more complicated than it really has to be. It's very easy to overthink sex, to over-analyse you partner's expectations and your own ability (or inability) to perform.
It's important to remember that sex should be enjoyable for all parties. It's one of life's simplest yet greatest pleasures, but still we insist on stressing out about it.
One of the biggest challenges for men is remembering that not all partners like the same thing; of course they don't! With one partner you may be a stud, and with another, you could be the greatest anti-climax the act of sex has ever known.
There is, however, one trick that I firmly believe should work with just about any partner – and it's all about the build-up.
Anal play is great. There. We said it.
No matter your gender or sexual orientation, everyone has a butthole and that butthole is packed with sensitive nerve endings that can feel amazing when stimulated.
Anal play should never (EVER) hurt and, with proper preparation and slow progression, can be a completely new (and potentially more intense) way to climax.
Read on to discover our top tips for exploring your dark side in the most pleasurable way possible.
New Year's Resolutions are, for many, a distant memory. But for many (myself included) losing weight and toning up was high up on my list.
However, for a number of reasons, maybe it hasn't happened, and you're still not feeling as sexy as you wish you could in the bedroom.
I like to think I'm a very body-positive person, and I genuinely believe in beauty at any size, but when it comes to my own body, I really struggle to put my beliefs into practice.
But, really, body confidence comes from accepting your body exactly as it is, rather than trying to make it into what you think everyone else wants it to be.
So, if you're looking for a boost to your sex appeal and sensuality, we've got some easy tips for you that can help you love your body, and everything it does for you.
Picture the scene: the lights are dimmed, the candles are lit - and someone pulls out the silky satin restraints.
If you and your partner have decided to make your BDSM debut, then congratulations are in order! It’s great that you’ve found someone else who is on your wavelength and is up for some sexploration.
What could kill the mood slightly, however, is if you tie up your lover and then stand there staring awkwardly, while your lover lies there and just stares right back at you (also awkward).
Before you whip the handcuffs out, the best thing to do is plan your scene together. Planning will help clarify what sort of play turns you both on, what activities are off the cards, and what your safe word will be.
But exactly how do you plan sex, and keep it sexy? Here's 7 things to do with your partner (ranked from mildest to wildest) now that you've got them tied up.
Have you ever wanted to turn your partner on via messages or Snapchat, but didn't want to take any compromising pictures?
Or perhaps you’ve been horny in public and can’t slip away anywhere to call them and tell them all about it?
Sending nudes can be fun and a sure way of getting the recipient hot and bothered, but they’re not the only way to get a sexy conversation going. Sometimes a well-written sext can be even hotter than a revealing pic.
Here’s my list of tried-and-tested sexting phrases you can use as a template next time you want to tease your partner, or have some long-distance fun.