How to Use a Prostate Massager

Discovering your prostate gland may be easy, but truly harnessing its pleasure-giving potential can take some skill, which is why we’re here to help.

Located a few inches inside the anus on the wall closest to the stomach, the prostate gland, sometimes called the P-spot, is an incredible epicentre of pleasure. Massaging it can lead to explosive full-body orgasms, hands-free 'super-Os' and even multiple climaxes.

Prostate massagers are specifically designed to stimulate the P-spot, though we generally recommend finding the area with your fingers first. Once you’ve found the spot, you’re off to the races, with both vibrating and non-vibrating massagers ready and willing to give you powerful P-spot orgasms.

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Love your lubricant

It’s always important to use lubricant to get the best glide from your toys, but it’s especially vital with prostate massagers, as the anus does not self-lubricate. No matter the size of your prostate massager or how experienced you are with them, you should be using lube.

“After a brief time of manual stimulation to relax myself and a generous application of lube I found I had no trouble in inserting the product.” - Mafro

The type of lubricant you use will depend on the material your prostate massager is made from, but a good quality water-based anal lubricant will be compatible with the widest range of toys.

Get clean

With your bum's day job being what it is, it doesn't take a genius to work out why anal exploration takes a little extra prep to make sure you're clean. Being clean isn't just for hygiene – knowing that you're squeaky clean down below should help you relax and enjoy your prostate experience more, too.

“It’s easy to assemble and works a charm. That feeling of filling yourself up with water alone is enough to turn you on and get you ready for anal play.” - Kdot80

For most people, being clean is as simple as making sure you’ve been to the toilet that day (so there’s no poop waiting to evacuate) and having a good wash in the bath or shower prior to using your massager. If you’d like to take extra precautions, you can also use an anal douche to flush your anus about 45 minutes before you’d like to enjoy your prostate massager.

Get comfortable and warm up your body

Conversely to what you may expect, small prostate massagers tend to be for more experienced users, as their fine tips make it necessary to be more precise with your P-spot stimulation. If your prostate massager is a little larger than what you’re used to inserting anally, be sure to take time warming up with your favourite anal toy or even your own fingers before you get started.

“Once I toyed with it for a bit I pushed it all the way home and the head of it slid up against my prostate effortlessly and near made me orgasm straight away. Once I had got used to it pressing up against my P-spot the sensations that it was causing were exquisite.” - pkm85

Cover your prostate massager in water-based anal lubricant, then position yourself comfortably, either on your back with your legs raised or bent over with your upper body leaning on a couch or bed. Slide the prostate massager inside, making sure to pause if you experience discomfort so your body can adjust to the new sensations.

Find the most satisfying place

Once you have inserted the toy, start with a rubbing motion, moving your toy around the prostate gland, making a mental note of which areas feel especially nice. You can then try applying more pressure to the area and seeing what effect it has on your body. Many people find that firm pressure brings them closer (or all the way) to orgasm.

You might also like to try an up-and-down motion, where the toy strokes over the prostate gland rapidly, for more intense stimulation. With experience, some people find that they can achieve a hands-free orgasm by clenching and releasing their muscles and letting the toy move with the body.

If your toy vibrates, try exploring those settings once you’ve found a satisfying position for your prostate-massager – the additional stimulation feels amazing!

“The functions this has range from a solid vibrate all the way through to random pulses of varying degrees of intensity. Each one bringing both stimulation from inside and outside. ” - GayBaker

The most important thing to remember is to go slowly and experiment. If the first toy you try doesn't do it for you, don't give up. Everyone is different and you'll be able to find the right fit for you.

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