6 Reasons to Give Your Penis-Owning Partner A Sex Toy

by Cecile

on 28 Jun 2019


Male sex toys have come a very long way since the Ancient Greeks used stale bread and a glug of olive oil to get off (you can't blame them for being resourceful).

These days you can step away from the salad dressing, as there are loads of different male sex toys to try.

More and more men are upgrading their solo sessions with textured strokers, twerking butts and sleek prostate massagers.

And while we're over the moon that they're taking their pleasure into their own hands (ahem), we also think male sex toys make great gifts.

So next time you want to treat the man in your life, why not go for a sex toy (obviously don't hand them a gift-wrapped Fleshlight in front of the in-laws).

Here are six reasons to buy a sex toy for a man.

1. They can take masturbation to a whole new level.

Giving your lover a sex toy is a loving act that shows you care about their enjoyment. Most people masturbate, but in some relationships it's a topic that isn't talked about – whether that's down to embarrassment or uneasiness around the idea of your lover enjoying themselves in private. Giving your lover something specifically designed for their pleasure shows them you fully encourage and appreciate them as a sexual being.

2. They can improve long-distance relationships.

If you live in different cities or you're spending time apart for some reason, a sex toy can help you to feel more connected. Realistic strokers like the ones from our THRUST range offer sex-like sensations, while app-controlled toys like the We-Vibe Vector Prostate Massager help shrink the distance, letting you control your partner's pleasure from afar.

3. They can help him explore his sexuality and discover new erogenous zones.

Some men swear by a tried-and-tested technique – a route that gets them to orgasm efficiently. Sex toys can introduce completely new sensations, as well as helping them find new erogenous zones and routes to orgasm. Why not give him a textured stroker to upgrade his hand-to-gland routine or, if he's never tried anal play, a beginner's butt plug or a prostate massager like the P-Play Silicone Prostate Massager.

4. They can help you introduce new sensations to a relationship and find new ways to play.

Sex toys can help to enhance your sex life, too, by adding new sensations and textures, making different positions possible, and introducing new ways to play. If you've talked about trying bondage and you're both excited by the idea, you could present your lover with a pair of handcuffs as a playful reminder that you're keen to start exploring.

5. They can help boost sexual performance.

Some men's sex toys can help to boost his stamina, for longer-lasting sessions. If you and your partner have talked about wanting to prolong your play (presenting them with a penis pump might be a bit much without any prior conversation), a toy designed for edging or a cock ring could be an ideal gift. Vibrating cock rings like the Tracey Cox Supersex Rechargeable Vibrating Love Ring come with the added bonus of a buzz for you, too.

6. They can make him a better lover.

Using a sex toy to masturbate can help him to get to know his own body and its responses, which should help him to lose any inhibitions and immerse himself in the moment when he's with you – rather than focussing on the end goal, aka the climax. That means better, more mindful sex for both of you.

Before you buy...

There are a few things to think about before splashing out on a sex toy for someone else.

Remember that you're buying a gift for your lover, not for yourself. Consider how (and where) they like to be touched, and don't get something just because you want to try it.

If you're not sure what sort of thing your partner would like, but you still want to treat them, have a browse online together instead – this can also be a great conversation-starter if you've not used sex toys together before.

If they're new to insertable sex toys, like prostate vibrators and butt plugs, start small. Presenting them with Belladonna's Bitch Fist may well terrify them if they're a beginner (and that thing is unbelievably hard to giftwrap).

Pair your gift with a bottle of water-based lubricant – all sex toys feel 100 times better with a squeeze of the slippery stuff.

Have a look at the reviews! Reading a few different opinions is a great way to help you decide what to buy.

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Written by Cecile. Lovehoney Editorial Team

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Originally published on 28 Jun 2019. Updated on 5 Aug 2020