How to Use a Strap-On

The very definition of a couple's plaything, strap-on sex toys are designed to switch up the sexual dynamics in your relationship. They can be used by straight people, gay people, bi people, pansexual people... pretty much anyone!

In this guide, we'll cover all the information you need if you're looking to introduce a strap-on to your playtime, including what pegging is, how to choose a dildo for a harness, and using a strap-on.

What is pegging?

Pegging is when a person without a penis uses a strap-on to penetrate a person with a penis. While lesbians have been using strap-ons on each other for a long time, strap-on play has recently reached the mainstream for hetero couples too.

“Ladies, don’t be scared of pegging! It’s such a power trip and an amazing turn-on to see your man so vulnerable and having no control. Lads, honestly, give pegging a go! You won’t regret it.” - Lady nymphOOO

We often get asked, does pegging make you gay? No. Is pegging fun? Absolutely.

While some people may worry about engaging in certain sexual acts, we say, as long as everyone is enjoying themselves, who cares? After all, the body parts that you enjoy having stimulated have nothing to do with who you're attracted to.

How to choose a dildo that fits your harness

Most strap-on harness kits have either a hole or an O-ring that you slot a dildo into. They usually come with at least one dildo to start you off. However, once you discover the joys of strap-on sex, you'll be hungry to try dildos in new shapes and sizes with your harness.

"Don't forget that you can use cock sleeves and extensions to give extra length and girth to your dildos." - Gyrator53

To choose a dildo that will fit in your harness, start by measuring the internal diameter of your O-ring on the harness. Make sure you're only measuring the space the dildo will go through, not the full width of the O-ring.

To choose an O-ring or harness that will work with your dildo, measure the circumference of your dildo, just above the flared base (where it will sit in the O-ring).

How to put a dildo in your harness

Get your dildo in place before you put your harness on - it’s much easier. If your harness has an interchangeable O-ring, make sure the O-ring is attached to the harness before you start.

“The harness itself was very easy to use and adjust the size to fit you snugly, and having a removable O-ring allows you to use this with a large range of toys - a very big bonus.” - Matt!

If your dildo is long and smooth with a flat, flared base like the Lovehoney 7 Inch Curved Silicone Dildo, you can just slip it into the O-ring.

If your dildo is large, has a big kink in it, or has testicles like the Lifelike Lover Realistic Dildo 6 Inch, you’ll need to gently pinch the flared base and work it through the O-ring.

Either way, a little water-based lubricant can help ease the dildo through the O-ring.

Now onto our strap-on instructions.

How to use a strap-on dildo correctly

There are many ways to enjoy a strap-on. And while full enjoyment largely depends on the speed, thrust depth, and positions you like, we do have some strap-on tips to make your experience easier and more comfortable.

"Although we do not do pegging in a femdom context, empowerment and domination / role reversal can be great psychological enhancements." - SSLH