Position of the Week: Yours Truly

Why?

Yours Truly is beginner-friendly without feeling too tame; it’s super easy to get in position and yet, with both wrists and legs restrained, the sub will be able to surrender all power to their Dom.

If you’re the Dom, you’ll have an incredible view of your partner, all tied up like a delicious treat. Plus, you get to decide exactly how you’ll tease them – whether that’s leaning into role play or stimulating their erogenous zones with your fingers and tongue while they beg for more.

Make it even better

You might be tempted to use something from home as DIY restraints but beware slippery textures that can easily tighten on their own (like a tie) – otherwise you risk cutting off the circulation. It’s always worth investing in a good quality set of restraints made from body safe materials that are easy to remove in a pinch!

Even if you’ve both been fantasising about bondage for a while, it may feel overwhelming for first timers. Embrace any giggles and ease the tension by checking in with each other at various points throughout. A simple “What colour are you? Red, Amber, or Green?” gives the sub a chance to signify how comfortable they feel.

If the sub needs warming up to the scene, try kissing up and down their body, focusing on the areas they can’t see (or popping on a blindfold) so they can’t anticipate where you’ll be kissing next.

You can also use a wand vibrator and gently trail it across their neck, back and shoulders. Take your time, here. Leave their erogenous zones ‘til last and tease the genitals for a few seconds before pulling back – to assert your dominance!

Make it even easier

To try out this position without being completely restrained, go for wrist cuffs only, rather than a full hogtie.

Or the Dom can grab the sub’s wrists in one hand while the other is free to finger them. This option is also great if you need to quickly take a break and stretch out before getting back into position again.

If you don’t have position enhancer on hand, a pillow or two will do just the trick. Simply place it under your partner’s stomach or hips to elevate their bottom higher up in the air and create a better angle for stimulating their sweet spots.

Make it even kinkier

Tying up your lover is a great intro to BDSM, but there’s a lot more to explore together. Experiment with dirty talk or impact toys to lean into the power exchange.

New to impact toys? If your sub enjoys soft, smooth strokes, teasing them with a feather tickler can heighten their sensitivity and help build up the anticipation.

A flogger is another non-intimidating option for if you want to progress from gentle tickles to hair-raising lashes. Gently stroke your partner’s thighs with the fronds of the flogger to prepare their skin for pleasure. Then, snap your wrist lightly to flick the ends against their butt cheeks.

As you both get more comfortable, you can raise the stakes, lashing the flogger a little harder each time.

Not the position for you?

We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.